About Tiffany | We Don't Have to Be Nice

THE AUTHOR

I’m Tiffany Nicole Kingman—writer, disability advocate, former dancer, mother, and a woman with more than 30 years in healthcare and a background in public health. I’m also the founder of Kingman Press LLC, the independent publishing company behind The Body Changed. The Bitch Did NOT!

I’ve helped people navigate the healthcare system, then become the patient, wondering why getting care requires the organizational skills of an executive assistant and the persistence of a debt collector.

My public health background helps me look beyond what’s happening inside someone’s body to what’s happening around them: access, resources, policies, and systems that can turn getting help into a full-time job. “Have you tried advocating for yourself?” hits differently when you’ve been on hold for two hours.

I’m Black, autistic, have ADHD, and live with chronic illness and disability. Apparently, I selected the full experience. I do not recall checking that box.

I wrote The Body Changed. The Bitch Did NOT! because “stay positive” was not a sufficiently detailed plan. I wanted honest conversations about identity, grief, boundaries, relationships, and what it actually takes to build a life around a body that has started making executive decisions without consulting you.

So I brought lived experience, research, and a sense of humor that has survived things my joints would prefer we not discuss.

There are citations.
There is swearing.
Both have a purpose.

I also created The NOPE Number Framework™, because “I can technically do this” kept turning into “and now I need two days to recover.” Your time, energy, and recovery deserve consideration before you say yes.

I created We Don’t Have to Be Nice -- the website because surviving difficult things shouldn’t require disappearing inside them. I’m making room for people who want practical tools and honest conversation—and who are tired of delivering a forty-minute presentation on why their needs count.

If that sounds familiar, pull up a chair.

An actual chair. We respect a seating accommodation around here.

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THE MISSION

“I created We Don’t Have to Be Nice because surviving difficult things shouldn’t require disappearing inside them.”

This is for the chronically ill, disabled, and neurodivergent people who have heard “but you look fine,” rehearsed an accommodation request like a courtroom argument, or used their last bit of energy making somebody else comfortable with their needs.

The mission is to put honest language, research-informed tools, and practical options in your hands—so you can understand what you need, ask for it clearly, and build a life with room for your personality, relationships, and ambitions.